By: Freely (Guest Writer)
Freely (@flo_w_freely on Twitter/X, @thelockedperspective on Bluesky) is a chastity lifestyle enthusiast, educator, and blogger. He writes at The Locked Perspective.
Freely recently crossed the mark of being locked for 500 days straight, and he's in the process of organizing up-and-coming chastity social events in Germany.
From Curiosity to Commitment
Let me say it up front: When I first became interested in chastity, I never dreamed that one day it would become a fixed part of my life — and especially of my normal everyday routine — to be permanently locked. Back then, in my mid‑20s, fetishes and kinks were things that had virtually nothing to do with my “normal life”, so they always took place off to the side and, in a sense, in hiding. The idea that the two could ever be compatible never truly crossed my mind. And it took not just a few months but actually years before I finally decided, entirely on my own and without any prompting from a Master, Dom, or Keyholder, to live permanently locked and thus essentially chaste.
The main reason was that my first experiences with chastity devices over 15 years ago were, frankly, pretty catastrophic and disappointing. Back then — triggered by numerous SM videos — I had excitedly ordered what seemed like a pretty popular model online, full of anticipation, excitement, and arousal, only to realize shortly after the much‑awaited package arrived that the idea of wearing that cage might have been hot and thrilling, but actually doing it (at least with that model) was absolutely out of the question in practice. I struggled just to assemble all the little pieces correctly — there were no instructions — was so aroused during the first attempt that I couldn’t even get the cage on, and when I finally managed to get something like “locked up,” I was deeply disappointed to realize it was so bulky and clunky that wearing it for longer than 15 to 20 minutes at a stretch — let alone under normal clothing — was simply impossible. So, as expected, the “beautiful” new — and, especially for me as a student at the time, not exactly cheap — product ended up buried somewhere deep in a drawer and didn’t see the light of day for years, let alone get worn again.
A Turning Point: Hypnosis and the Cobra
Despite this supposed defeat, the topic of chastity never completely let go of me; a few years later — I had just moved to a new city and was single again — I gave it another shot, this time with a metal model. It had fewer little parts than the first one, but still felt so bulky, awkward, and at times even painful to wear that I didn’t pursue that path either. More years had to pass — and even a pandemic had to break over all of us — before my life finally took the decisive turn in the right direction.
Triggered by COVID‑19 and all the time I suddenly spent alone at home, I accidentally discovered my preference (and maybe a bit of a talent) for erotic hypnosis. After first experimenting on my own with various video and audio files and quickly realizing that I was especially receptive to all kinds of hypnotic inductions that put me into a submissive mental state — and even enabled me to orgasm on command without any form of stimulation — I became more curious and bolder in exploring and probing my inner sub core — as one of my Hypno Masters later called it.
After initially having one‑off sessions with different hypnotists, more intense connections gradually formed and I met my first Hypno Master, with whom I worked over a longer period of time and who agreed to condition me into a good, obedient sub. I liked that idea and agreed. One of his first conditions, however, was that I acquire a functional chastity cage for this purpose, because my lust and desire also needed to be better controlled and kept in check outside our sessions — and a physical cage would serve as a constant reminder.
That was how I first became acquainted with the Cobra cage — without actually knowing that the models I found online were just cheap knockoffs. I hadn’t heard of KINK3D as a company at that point. Even so, this marked a decisive turning point in my chastity journey, because I finally had far better experiences wearing a chastity cage than I'd had years earlier. Thanks to the slimmer design and improved technical possibilities, the newer models were much lighter and more ergonomic than back then; putting one on was easier, and wearing it finally felt much more comfortable and natural. Every time my Hypno Master instructed me to put the cage on, I felt both pride and (of course) arousal.
Challenges and Breakthroughs
All this encouraged me to look for more like‑minded people. I posted cage check photos of myself more often on social media, became increasingly part of various internet groups and communities on the subject, and thus immersed myself ever deeper in the world of chastity. That eventually brought KINK3D to my attention as well, so that in early 2024 I finally ordered my first real Cobra cage. Admittedly not without slight misgivings, since the price difference compared to the models I’d owned up to that point was quite large. In the meantime, though, I had gotten a taste for it, and while the Hypno Sub Training was receding more into the background again, the topic of chastity was capturing more and more of my attention and interest.
When, a short time later, I unpacked my first genuine Cobra — a black, size S (Wide) — and felt the soft, supple material on my skin as I put it on, it became instantly clear to me that this was exactly what I had been searching for all those years — and my desire and urge to stay permanently locked grew stronger with each passing day.
What was still holding me back then was only my mind. At that point, for example, it was unthinkable for me to go to work wearing the cage. My worry that someone might notice something was too great. My doubts that my fetish might overly influence or even hinder my everyday life were too strong. What finally helped me here was the acquaintance of a switch from the BDSM community who had messaged me out of curiosity. He took me under his wing as a "coach", regularly monitored my progress, and thus gave me the structure and supervision I needed at that time. He especially encouraged me to log my lockup times more precisely and worked continuously with me to expand them further and further. Instead of occupying myself with my lust, he suggested using the time and energy gained for more exercise, more conscious nutrition, and training my sub body and mind. He always took care to maintain a certain firmness, but he also rewarded me regularly with hypnosis sessions and kept showing me what I had already achieved in terms of my training and conditioning. In this way he strengthened my self‑confidence on the one hand, while on the other he repeatedly challenged me to go even further and grow beyond my previous limits.
That massively increased my motivation to be permanently locked, even though — despite all these positive developments — there were of course still hurdles we had to overcome together. One of the biggest challenges was sleeping with the cage on. During the first two weeks my body rebelled vehemently against the new device. I repeatedly had beginnings of erections that caused fairly strong pain, tossed and turned in bed, and had to take the cage off completely several times in the middle of the night because I just couldn’t bear it anymore and could hardly get any sleep. It took almost two weeks of perseverance, numerous adjustments to my routines (moisturizers, people — moisturizers!), and several bursts of motivation before sleeping with my cage became normal and no longer regularly robbed me of rest.
A New Way of Living
The fact that I stayed with it and didn’t give up back then was largely due to my Coach. During that time he kept building me up, responded with understanding to setbacks, and still radiated the necessary firmness that kept giving me the motivation and ambition to stick with it despite every challenge. As a result, I gradually trusted myself more and more in other areas, wore the cage more often outside while shopping and later at work as well, until chastity felt so normal and natural that something was genuinely missing whenever I had to take the cage off for some reason. That was exactly the moment when I felt that something that had once started as a kink had actually become a way of life that now firmly belonged to me — and on February 14, 2024, I made the decision to live permanently caged.
This also made me more open with my immediate environment about the topic. When the opportunity arose, I told my closer circle of friends about this change in my life and even discovered that a neighbor of mine — someone I had seen from time to time but never had closer contact with — was also wearing a cage! From this — as with many others I’ve met on this journey and who have accompanied my path — numerous friendships and contacts have now developed, with whom I now share not only the topic of chastity but also many other things and leisure activities we do together.
These days, when I go to my closet and pick out a new color or combination from my cage collection, I’m grateful that chastity and being locked have truly given me a completely different, new life and sense of living — and that after many years of questioning and searching I have finally found my true self. Over the past one and a half years, I’ve become aware of so many different aspects — for example, how disciplined and goal‑oriented I can be. They’ve given me new motivation with regard to exercise, nutrition, and training; given me a new sense of my body along with improved self‑worth; and led to things I would never have dared dream of before. (If you had told me even a year ago that I would one day be part of a Locked Boys panel on chastity at Fetish Week London, or write a blog post for KINK3D about my experiences and my personal journey — I would’ve just given you an unbelieving smile!) I’m all the more curious to see what the future still has in store for me.
As of today (July 21, 2025) I’ve been permanently locked for 524 days, and at this point I see absolutely no reason to change that. If anything, I feel that chastity has truly become a genuine matter of the heart for me. That’s why I also started my own blog, The Locked Perspective, where I regularly share my thoughts about life in chastity, post updates, and of course answer questions that are sent to me - for example on X or Bluesky. Maybe you’d like to drop by! I always love connecting with other chastity folks, keyholders, or anyone curious — and I hope this post has given you a bit of inspiration, excitement, and ideas for your own path toward a life in chastity as well.