Nathan Bay is an author on a mission to bring authentic, kink-positive storytelling to how chastity is represented in gay erotica. His books can be found here.
By: Nathan Bay
Like many of you, I was first drawn to chastity out of curiosity. What started as a personal interest quickly became a creative spark. I began writing books that explored not just the act of chastity, but the emotions and connections that come with it.
I came onto the scene in 2018, at a time when the market for chastity erotica was limited. Many of the books at that time featured short, sexy setups focused on the kink itself. They were a great starting point, but I saw room to tell stories that went beyond the cage, diving into character growth, relationships, and emotional stakes.
Chastity is so much more than a locked cage and a dangling key. It changes how people connect, how they trust, and how they give or take control. I wanted to see that reflected in the stories I read. And since those stories were hard to find, I decided to write my own.
Sexy with a Purpose
My first chastity-themed book was titled Bear Hunting. The story follows Ty, a cocky fitness influencer who walks into a bathhouse thinking he owns the place. He’s used to getting any guy he wants, until he meets a man who goes by the nickname Bear.
Bear shuts him down immediately. If Ty wants a chance, he’ll have to do something he’s never done before... wear a chastity cage.
The story isn’t just about the physical lock. It’s about what happens inside Ty’s head as he wrestles with surrendering control. We see vulnerability, pride, and the path to experiencing pleasure in new and unexpected ways.
It was important for me to write a book that captured the mental gymnastics men go through when they’re new to chastity. There can be doubts, resistance, and the unbearable craving for release. There is also the unexpected intimacy.
I don’t believe erotic fiction has to be disposable. Its first goal is to be sexy and exciting for the reader, but it can still carry a meaningful message. It can reflect real struggles and desires. It can invite readers to explore things they might not have dared on their own. It’s okay to be sexy with a purpose.
Turning a New Page
I published Bear Hunting on Amazon’s Kindle marketplace in 2018. The feedback I received made it clear I’d tapped into something missing from erotica. Readers wrote to me saying they’d never considered chastity before, but the mix of familiar erotica elements like the sexy jock (Ty) and the age-gap tension with his older partner (Bear) drew them into my world. Suddenly, they were curious.
Gay men reached out to say it felt refreshing to see themselves represented honestly, without stereotypes. Straight women wrote to say they loved the power dynamics and wanted to introduce chastity to their husbands.
One message from a reader has stuck with me:
“It’s not always easy to find steamy, quality stories with a focus on enforced male chastity and orgasm denial, but you’ve definitely got it (ahem) locked down.” (shared with permission)
That was exactly the kind of validation I needed. My audience felt seen, like they were part of the story instead of on the outside looking in. So I kept going.
I wrote about subs who were seeking their Doms, frat boys who were locked on a dare, married couples shifting their power dynamics, men navigating control and intimacy from every angle. I wanted to show that chastity is as diverse as the people who practice it.
Chastity is rarely the end of the story. More often, it’s the beginning. It’s a catalyst for connection, vulnerability, and growth. And it’s not just transformative for the person who’s locked up. Chastity can be just as thrilling, confusing, and rewarding for the one holding the key. My stories aim to capture both sides of that equation.
Chastity’s Next Chapter
I’m seven years into this, and the chastity landscape looks nothing like it did when I started. What was once hidden in niche corners of kink has grown into something far more mainstream.
A lot of that shift comes down to accessibility. Chastity feels a lot less intimidating. And a huge part of that is thanks to KINK3D.
Cobra changed the game. Men who might never have tried chastity were introduced to a cage that was comfortable, practical, and designed for everyday wear. I’ve watched it ripple through the community, and it’s undeniable how much the Cobra has influenced public perception.
In fact, I must confess that one of my stories is a very thinly veiled tribute to KINK3D. In Charlie and the Chastity Factory, a mysterious San Francisco inventor runs a company called LOCK3D LABS. Their futuristic inventions completely reimagine chastity.
One such invention in the story is a full body suit that tricks the wearer by putting them into a simulated reality where they thinking they’re experiencing infinite locked orgasms. In actuality they aren’t orgasming at all. Wouldn’t that be a big hit for Locktober? (Your move, KINK3D!)
As more people discover chastity, the conversation is changing too. It’s not just about hardware or kink anymore. It’s about people searching for intimacy, connection, and self-discovery through control and denial.
Writing these stories has always been about more than cages and keys for me. It’s about representation. It’s about taking something that was hidden in the shadows and giving it heart, humor, and heat. I still have many stories to tell and dynamics to explore.
Thank you for taking the time to read about my journey. And thanks to KINK3D for pushing this community forward in ways I never could have imagined. I’m excited to see how chastity continues to evolve.